Loving Yourself is Most Important

     After trusting too many people, one runs out of trust. Even the idealist who thinks everything and everyone is beautiful and perfect and without fault, detaches. The bed becomes a haven and the outside world becomes a cave of dysphoria. One learns a lot about themselves in this state. Some become trapped there. 

     Some hate what they are. But that is their choice.

     It never feels like a choice, and the more people say that it's a choice, the more the affected party wants to curl up and die over it. But attitude is a choice, even if it's a difficult one.

     Start with pretending, because one doesn't actually feel confident and happy and trusting and secure. But they can always smack on a damn smile and face the world like it's not the scariest and most dangerous place in existence. Pretend that every person they meet doesn't have to ability of ripping their heart out. The important part of this: Only project this on the outside. Inside, they must stay aware of their own feelings and their sense of who other people are. Accept that they dont want to trust someone, and do it anyway.
     Eventually, one detaches their self worth from others. And with that comes truly enjoyable relationships in which two people don't rely on each other to mean something to themselves.